I never thought I would be “that” bride. On the list of things important to me about my wedding day the wedding dress was probably fourth (after food, music, and an open bar lol). Yet somehow after I tried on over 100 wedding dresses, went to 11 bridal appointments, and visited 9 bridal salons, was no closer to finding my dream dress. I felt frustrated, embarrassed, and eventually decided to take a break from looking at wedding dresses all together.
What I was doing wrong was searching for a dress for my venue. My fiance and I are getting married in a HUGE cathedral. It has ornate gold fixtures, stained glass windows, and marble floors. I was looking for a dress that would be as grand as my setting and everything was coming up short.
After months and months of searching I finally found the gown! I learned the following things on my very very long wedding dress journey.
- Don’t settle. In my second to last bridal appointment I stumbled upon a “back up dress.” I liked the dress. I didn’t love it. And I’m glad I kept looking. My “back up dress” pales in comparison to the one I ended up with. If you’ve found a dress that you like keep looking for one that you love, nobody should spend thousand of dollars on a wedding dress they feel lukewarm about.
- Don’t be Pressured into Making a Decision. While I encountered some great sales associates during my wedding dress journey ultimately, they are there to make a sale. Don’t let them (or your family or friends) pressure you into buying a dress you’re not 100% in love with. It’s perfectly ok, to go home and think about it before returning to make a purchase.
- Be open to different styles. The silhouette I originally wanted and what I ended up with were completely different. I wrote about how I was dead set against a ballgown HERE. If I had been willing to try styles, I might have found my dress sooner. Although, sales associates can be pushy, they know their inventory. If you’re struggling. Telling your sales associate how you want to feel on your wedding day may put you in the right direction.
- You may not have “that” moment. I’m sure you know the one I’m talking about. You put on the veil, you cry, your mom cries, your best friends cry, maybe some strangers in the salon cry too. The bridal industry made us believe unless everyone is crying, it’s not the one. However, you might find the perfect dress and not shed a tear, and that’s ok. (Full disclosure, I cried like a crazy person when I found my dress but, that might have been mainly due to exhaustion lol).
- Have fun! At the end of the day wedding dress shopping should be fun. When else in your life will your family and friends trek from store to store to watch you try on dresses? Take the people you love (or even your future fiance, I took my fiance wedding dress shopping and wrote about it HERE) and enjoy being a blushing bride.
For those of you who have gone wedding dress shopping how long did it take you to find the one? For those of you who haven’t gone wedding dress shopping, what would you do if you couldn’t find the one?
I loved writing this post and sharing some of the dresses that almost made the cut. Please be on the look out for my next post on my experience at the greatest salon on earth Kleinfeld Bridal!