Wedding Dress Shopping with My Fiance


This weekend I went wedding dress shopping with my fiance. I know. I know. Your fiance is not supposed to see you in a wedding dress until your wedding day. But for me, wedding dress shopping with my fiance made sense. Every girl says it but my fiance is my best friend. More importantly he’s my partner in life. I can’t think of a single big decision I’ve made in the last few years without his advice. Full disclosure, I don’t always take his advice, but I definitely always ask for it. So I think it makes sense that I wanted his advice on the most important (and probably the most expensive) dress that I’ll ever wear.

Let me back track for a second.  

You have to really think about who you take wedding dress shopping. We’ve all seen those episodes of Say Yes to the Dress where the bride brings a salty bridesmaid or jealous sister.  You have to take people who will be supportive, excited, and not overly critical. I had a hard time deciding who to take. It didn’t help that I’m far away from home and getting all my favorite ladies in one place at one time would be difficult. I thought about going alone.

 I was prepared to go shopping by myself but, I wanted my fiances opinion on the perfect dress for me.I showed my fiance a few pictures here and there, made him suffer through a few episodes of Say Yes to the Dress, and was floored when he concluded that I would look best in a ballgown. A ballgown. 5 foot me…in a ballgown. That was the moment that I realized I wanted him to see me in a wedding dress before the big day. It took a lot of convincing. My fiance had no interest in going to look at wedding dresses. But when I explained to my fiance that  that I wanted and trusted his opinion he agreed.


The actual appointment went really well. I tried on a few different styles and was able to narrow down what what looks best on me (definitely not a ballgown fyi, I want to look like a grown sexy woman on my wedding day, not a contestant on toddlers in tiaras).

When I stepped out of the dressing room and got a “woooooooow” I knew I made the right decision. Not on the dress. On taking my fiance wedding dress shopping.  I’ll  never forget the look on his face. And I can’t wait to see that look again on our wedding day.  

At the end of the day, I’m not sure I found thee dress. I know I’ll go wedding dress shopping again. I know make the ultimate decision without him (I do want to maintain some element of surprise!). But I’m glad I took my fiance wedding dress shopping. I have a better idea of what I think I want and we’re in agreement on what looks best on me (grown and sexy bride for the win!). 

Wedding dress shopping with my fiance was a great decision but I understand that it might not be for everyone. But for those of you on the fence I highly recommend it.

Would you take your fiance dress shopping? Why or why not? Let me know in the comments below! 

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  • Reply Morgan Jorgenson

    I love that you did this! I have always thought that I would want my future husband helping me pick out my dress!

    July 10, 2017 at 9:42 PM
  • Reply Ada Beauty

    I think like you did, I would go with him first and then make a decision that would still surprise him. Congrats on getting engaged!

    July 11, 2017 at 3:37 PM
  • Reply Julie

    Grown sexy bride for the win! 🙂
    I think that grey/silver bustier looks lovely on you but I can’t wait to see what you chose 🙂 and congratulations!!

    Julz | Frame Ambition travel. model diaries. video.

    July 11, 2017 at 4:48 PM
  • Reply BehindTheSchmile

    I’m not engaged or even in a relationship lol but I think I would take him initially to pick out styles and then pick the final dress myself. I love watching Say Yes to the Dress and it definitely influenced my decision because ultimately girls can be very bitchy and unsupportive without even realising it. Great post! All the best to you both!

    July 11, 2017 at 6:20 PM
    • Reply blackgirlwhitewine

      Thank you! That’s my plan! I got his opinion and a feel for what he likes but he won’t see the final dress until our wedding day lol

      July 12, 2017 at 1:25 AM
  • Reply Kay Arrington

    I think so many things that have to do with weddings are based in such old traditions sometimes that it’s funny we still follow them. I’m not at the point of thinking about if I’ll bring my man with me to the fitting(probably not because his fashion sense for that isn’t there) but I do agree that you have to be really sincere about who you bring. I’ve watched so many episodes of Say Yes to the Dress where the experience is ruined by someone other than the bride doing too much or just being nasty about the choices. It’s funny that I just hate ballgowns in general, 5’8 and I just feel I’d be a hot mess. Anyway, congrats!

    July 11, 2017 at 7:47 PM
    • Reply blackgirlwhitewine

      Thank you! And I totally agree I didn’t want my first experience trying on dresses to be with someone who could possibly derail my whole appointment lol

      July 12, 2017 at 1:27 AM
  • Reply Elizabeth Kerr

    This is such a good idea! We can all tell by our man’s reaction how something actually looks. Also, it’s such a big deal and you really want your best friend with you!

    July 12, 2017 at 1:46 AM
  • Reply nbashley

    Loving how non traditional this is girl. Your dress is beautiful congrats! Can’t say I’ll be taking my fiance along but I love why you did it 😉

    July 12, 2017 at 5:20 AM
    • Reply blackgirlwhitewine

      Thank you! And I completely understand, it’s not for everyone lol

      July 12, 2017 at 12:24 PM

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